I’ve told my husband that I am an alcoholic. He was quiet. He didn’t know what to say. He just gave me a hug (he’s an engineer). I told my neighbor I am an alcoholic, who is a non-drinker. She was surprised but so supportive. She also gave me a hug. I announced “My name is Trish and I am an alcoholic” at my AA meeting. They all said “Hi Trish.” I go a few hugs afterward. I emailed my friend in Florida who is also an alcoholic but has not said the word yet. She wants to be like me. She wants to quit drinking, but her husband says she doesn’t have a problem (she’s his drinking buddy). Anyway, she is very supportive of me.
I’m not going to tell my 90 year old mom who lives independently, but counts on me for most everything. She was also an alcoholic but never admitted it. She doesn’t drink anymore because she was hospitalized for pancreatitis caused by drinking (she won’t admit that). If I told her this she would be up nights thinking about me and wondering how she didn’t know. Not worth worrying her.
I need to tell me two grown daughters. They have a right to know that their mom has this disease. We all seem to know that our parents are alcoholics don’t we? My girls know I love(d) my wine. They give me gifts related to wine (pretty wine glasses, cut little wine glass charms, wine bottle openers. They are grown women with families of their own and life in different states, so I don’t get to see them often enough. I don’t want to send an email, and I don’t really want to tell them over the phone. What to do. One daughter knows I quit drinking, but the word “alcoholic” has never been mentioned. Perhaps I hesitate because deep down I feel they have the same disease and I’m not sure where the conversation will go. Hmmm – any words of wisdom are appreciated.